As I was preparing to write my blog tonight, I asked my step daughter Hannah, what should I write about and she answered ME! write about ME, it’s the best thing you can write about. She is right, she is one of the best things I could write about.
I don’t have children of my very own and don’t know what it’s like to physically give birth to a child, but I do know what it feels like to love a child like they are your very own. Now it did take some time for me to feel this way. I like kids, they are fun, give them a pinch of sugar and watch them bounce off the walls! WOW! but having kids of my very own, eh didn’t see it.
When I met my hubby I had to think about what I was about to jump into. I mean, I was getting my soul mate, but two children? Could I do it? Would I completely be a disaster with them? Would they think I was this evil step mother that Disney always put in their movies? Fortunately, I have not messed them up that much and loving them has come naturally due to how much their father they are extensions of him, just more to love. By the way we always do the Darth Vader voice when we say father in this house hold. You say father and someone will say Luke I am your father! We can’t help ourselves. Anyways back to the kiddos.
So over the past year my relationship with the kiddos has grown. Hannah and I are close, in Hannah’s words we are twinnies, brain twinnies meaning we think a lot alike. At first I was like Oh man I have the mind of a 11 year old? oh jeez! She can even keep up with my subtle humor, saying things like Ooooh I see what you did there. Did I mention we share the same birthday? yeah I know right. She is super intelligent, quick, clever and beautiful. A package deal that any parent would be super proud of and man are we ever!
What’s so amazing about Hannah is watching her grow up and become her own person. Making her own decisions, which is one of the things Hubby and I encourage Hannah and Max to do a lot. We want them to make their own decisions and we will guide them where needed. We feed their artistic talents with home art projects and take them to painting classes.
This week with the kiddos I noticed that Hannah was making new decisions, from choosing healthier foods to eat, taking her vitamins, she started writing a book and drawing more. I love it! It’s so inspiring to see her make these decisions. Like I tell my husband, we can only be who we are with the kiddos and hope that what ever they get from us is all good. I would love to say it’s all me, me that influences Hannah to make these choices and grow with so much passion, but the truth is she is teaching me how to be a better person. It is my lesson to learn and she is my teacher.
So I leave the blog tonight with this poem:
Not flesh of my flesh,
Nor bone of my bone,
but still miraculously my own.
Never forget for a single minute;
You didn’t grow under my heart
but in it.
From my cup of hot tea to yours! Cheers my friends and to all the step mothers out there!